Deep down, everybody wants to feel love, but are we willing to give it without reward or hope of return? Is altruism possible?
Everyone wants to be fulfilled with something. So why is it that fulfillment is so fleeting? Can we never actually be fulfilled? Why is it that everything that is meant to satisfy us, to fill us with pleasure, stops doing so after a short period? Why can’t we be satisfied with what we already have? Why is it that once we have achieved what we wanted, we immediately visualize the next thing that we want to do?
Everything we achieve stops exciting us, and the irony is that when the thing we want is taken away from us, or if we can’t achieve it, we keep thinking about how much we miss it and how imperfect our life is without it. So it’s not only that we can’t enjoy what we have already achieved, but we also find ourselves in a perpetual pleasure hunt.
The problem isn’t that we want too much, that we want to take over the whole world and experience everything there is to experience. The real problem is that even if we’d achieve this, we still wouldn’t be satisfied. Could it be that we grow to become all the more unfulfilled, unhappy and bored simply because our desires keep growing and we want more and more?
If so, what should we want?
What Kind of Desire Should We Have?
What we need is a desire that will never stop fulfilling us. It has to fulfill us endlessly, making us feel more and more pleasure. It shouldn’t fade away once we achieve it, but on the contrary, upon achieving it, the pleasure should increase.
Sooner or later, one of our desires will lead us into pain or sorrow, emptiness, trouble, or illness. This is because all our desires are out of balance with our environment.
We feel a desire, we lack something, and now we need to use our environment in order to fulfill that lack. In other words, our desires always force us to change something in our environment in order to balance what we imagine will bring us fulfillment.
Aspiring Balance
We can then say that all of our desires make us aspire balance with our environment, and every time we reach this balance, a new desire surfaces telling us that we have to try again. While we have discovered all sorts of physical laws, we still haven’t discovered the laws that make our desires and thoughts what they are.
A perfect desire must be in perfect balance with the environment. In order to realize a perfect desire, we need to know what being “perfectly balanced with the environment” means, and how to achieve it. What is it a desire for? Beyond all our daily desires for food, sleep, sex, family, money, honor, power and knowledge; beyond all these, what is it that we really want?
Love. Whether we admit it openly or hold it deep within, we want to feel love. We can’t achieve a complete understanding of anything only via scientific and technological means, and we can’t feel complete, unending fulfillment because we need to understand that love is the all-embracing law of nature, holding every other law within itself.
If what is going on in another person’s desires and thoughts wasn’t hidden, but could be felt and seen we would never make any mistakes, would have a perfect relationship, would always know the right word to say at the right moment, and would be able to give the other person exactly what they want.
An Opposite Desire: What We Need to Want
The law of love states that only through our love of others can we be fulfilled with never-ending pleasure, a perfect, eternal happiness. It is a desire to give, to bestow not to receive some reward in return. Once we come out of ourselves — feel and see each others’ desires, each one fulfilling the other and working as one interconnected body for the sake of the whole — we are involved in a totally new level of existence. We will understand how our desires and thoughts work, and we will understand and feel true love; one that never fades away, but that constantly increases.
Discovering the law of love will mean understanding, fulfillment and peace. Nature has given us one precious relationship that comes close to it, the relationship of a mother to her child. The mother gives her child everything. She loves him and thinks only about him, that he is happy, growing up healthily, and that all his needs are fulfilled. While doing whatever she has to do to keep the child in such a state, the mother experiences an increasing pleasure and fulfillment.
Achieving this state means achieving a totally new perception, one that is detached from the sensation of time, place, pressures and limitations.How can we create and build a desire to love others in the first place? Has anyone ever done this? How can we make such an unimaginable perfection and happiness a reality? Not an accidental, romantic love but one that lasts a lifetime
Why is love hidden? Do I have a choice to start my life anew, setting this as the goal that I want to achieve?
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